One question I’ve grown to dislike over the years is, “What do you DO for a living?” (As if this question reveals all there is to know about me.) Today, in the Johnson City Press, Kathryn Lopez addressed the question. So, on my 49th birthday I thank you, Kathryn, for finally giving me words to what I’ve done (and am doing) with my life!
Kathryn divides moms up in three categories:
Well, thanks to this article, I can now say, “Hear ye, hear ye! I am an adaptive woman.” The next couple paragraphs from her article will explain it.
Adaptive women have interests in both work and family, and … they seek to scale back their work when they have children in the home – especially infants and toddlers. But when they don’t have children, or their children are older, adaptive women are often interested in working outside the home on a full-time basis. So, their orientation to work and family shifts over the life course, and according to the needs of their children.
In other words, they’re neither just stay-at-home moms nor working moms: They’re women who do what’s best for them and their families at a given time. They don’t fit the standard conservative stay-at-home model or the liberal full-time-working-woman model. For that reason, they are often invisible in media and academic debates about work and family.